It has my own real life experiences to deal with men.

It’s a fantasy of every woman to have a soul mate with whom she is comfortable and relaxed. Even every man wants the same. Every woman dreams of a Romeo as her husband and every man desires a Juliet in his dreams. In simple language we can say that a woman likes to be with a guy like Brad Pitt and a man likes to be with a woman like Angelina Jolie. Each one of us wants rather demands a perfect relationship regardless of our own imperfections. But still, to sustain a healthy relationship becomes very difficult for all of us. The reason may vary from person to person or situation to situation.


Sometimes we want to be loving and caring but we could not because of some small and simple things. Though these simple things appeared to be very crucial at the time when our relationship starts having the marks of torn and tears. Women think men do not care of their soft feelings and men feel frustrated for convincing women. This becomes the start of the breaking of a relationship.

It is very necessary for both men and women to know that both of them behave differently on a particular situation, and expectations of both from the other are quite different.

Sometime back I read the book Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus by John Gray. When   I got married I came to feel that the examples cited in the book were very close to the situation I used to experience with my husband in my daily life. But with the suggestions provided in the book I was able to handle those situations in a quite matured way.

I am sharing few of the situations experienced by me so far:

1.Woman should not give unsolicited advices to men (tip given in the book )

Due to the way I am brought up I always want things in a better way. I always believe in improving towards a better person and I keep on trying for it. Due to this attitude I always keep on giving my suggestions to everybody around me. Even my husband thinks that I have a good analytical thinking ability and he always used to ask for my suggestions while taking any critical decision. But with a habit of giving advices, I used to give my advices at times when I am not asked for. My intent of giving advice is just to save my husband’s time and effort. But being a man my husband has different perspective of seeing this advice, he could feel that he is not capable of handling simple things and he is getting help on things for which he has never asked. This could make him feel low and even frustrated.

So to avoid such situation I followed John Gray. E.g. my husband was trying to lock a door but for some reason it was not getting locked. Instead of giving him advices I just told him that he can do it. And these simple words of mine spared him from frustration and he was able to lock the door. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care for my ideas and advices. Whenever there is a critical decision to be taken by him and he feels that my inputs can add on value while taking the decision he definitely seeks for my advice.

So in this way we both are satisfied with our own and the other ones behaviours.

If you like this article then please do reply, I’ll keep on posting my experiences.